Behaving Badly

I think that I am beginning to burn out a little bit.
Only back from holidays 6 weeks ago and am already counting down  to my week off in New Year.
Irritable.
Temper.
And I suppose I could blame it on menopause but I refuse to cop out that way.
While a portion might be due to hormones the balance is based on behaviour from adults that I am subjected to.
M: Ma’am you can go ahead and place your groceries on the conveyor.
****There is more then 2 meters between end of till where you put your groceries and the other end where paying.
C: She is not wearing a mask. I am not wanting to get that close.
***I look at the young lady paying who is one of my co-workers and not at work and we say nothing.
C: Why are people not wearing masks?
M: Until the gov’t mandates it we are unable to enforce it. All we can do is encourage our customers to wear a mask.
C: Well they have to wear them to go into Wal-mart and Superstore.
M: Ma’am they ask that customers wear masks however they cannot force them to wear them.
C: Well at least they try. I will not be shopping here again.
***Three grocery stores in town. In the two that have said masks are mandatory even staff are not all wearing masks. Where I work it is mandatory for staff to be masked. It is a part of our uniform.
I was in check out 1 yesterday afternoon.
Express.
I turn to smile at my approaching customer and realize that she has more then 15 items in her cart.
As I go to point this out to her she announces that she has three separate orders.
Really?
A customer is standing behind her so I called across to my supervisor:
M: L could you please take my next customer. She has three orders here.
Did I bellow loudly?
Yes I did.
This is not the first time that she will do this and it is not the last time either.
And she is smug about it.
Could not care less that there was a line up behind her.
And she wanted paper.
I put the last order in paper and turned while she and her friend loaded her cart.
I heard a rip and turned to see that she had grabbed the bag and pulled it up from the top.
No I did not offer her another bag.
I turned and began my next order.
It is not often that I will outright be a bitch to a customer.
Not often at all.
And it takes a lot to push me to that brink but of late there are more and more customers that seem to be succeeding.
In a time where we need more kindness, more consideration, more understanding I am seeing more selfishness, less care, less kindness.
More about what is in it for me?
More what are you going to give me?
More rolling of eyes.
More bad behaviour.
I have been told that if I am going to clean a till I should do it properly.
Want to know what I was thinking at that time?
I have been told multiple times not to put the bread on the bottom of the bag.
By children.
Customers who I could have given birth to are giving me a snotty attitude.
Looking down or rather up at me because I work in a ‘menial’ job.
Well my menial job is more important than that one that has you sitting behind a desk every day pushing buttons.
Tell me again who rang your groceries through?
Tell me again who stocked the shelves holding the groceries that you purchased?
Those of us with ‘menial’ jobs are the ones who silently stand taking your abuse, your lectures, your snide tone, your expectations that you are to be treated as if the Queen of England.
The derision you treat me with, that you treat my co-workers with, that you feel it is okay to make someone who is providing you with a service to cry and feel second class will rebound tenfold.
Karma is always watching.
And if we are lucky we get to watch it in action.
I apologize this was not suppose to be a rant and rave post.
But I am tired.
So tired of what I am seeing.
Unkindness.
Meanness.
Selfishness.
Heartlessness.
Stupidity.
I want Tember to be so much better…..so much more…..but how do I ask him to do so when all around he sees adults acting badly?
©Oct. 30/20
Picture is my own

Author: Jay-lyn Doerksen

A single hard working mom of a soon to be teenage son. A poet and story teller I have wanted to write since I was a child. This space is where I share stories about myself and my life and the creative poetry that stirs my soul. My hope is you will pull up a chair and a cup of coffee delving into the world that I offer and you find simple enjoyment for a few moments. Welcome to The Wonderful & Wacky World of One Single Mom

9 thoughts on “Behaving Badly”

  1. You can ask him because you are setting the main example for him. And if you can set a good example then he will see other adults behaving badly for what they are.

    It isn’t always easy but this is how I try to behave around my own kids.

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    1. I am the same way. Yesterday was one of those days that started off and ended in my not normal sunshine attitude. Today I am better and know that Tember is going to turn out alright unless we take a sudden right turn somewhere it is I think wearing on me being front and center watching people behave badly

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  2. People are horrible and selfish. Here, lots don’t wear masks and we can’t move forward to more “normalcy” bc our numbers are bad. But people won’t make the connection between their own stupid behavior and the consequences that naturally follow it 🙄

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    1. I had a lady tell me she did not care the cart was unsanitized and tried to push passed me. I looked at her and said we would like you to go to the lobby and get a sanitized cart. People like her are why cases are going up so bad

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  3. You can ask him because you can show him an example of that kindness, selflessness, love and intelligence. You exhibit it freely on a daily basis.
    Bad people who exhibit poor attitudes, meanness of spirit, heartlessness selfishness and unkindness are the pond scum we use as the markers for who we don’t want to be. That’s why they exist in our worlds, so that we know we are getting it right because we aren’t the same as they are. There is no explaining stupid I’m afraid, stupid is as stupid does. Avoid the stupid if you can, and if you can’t? Kill ’em off in a poem lil Sis xxx 💖💖😘

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  4. Amen to this! I can’t stand people acting all superior and argumentative with people that thjey have decided are “inferior” because of their job. I would have thought that the COVID pandemic was illustrating just how much we rely on those so-called menial staff for our most essential services. I’m sorry you have to put up with that shit, Jay-lyn. (P.S. That picture is amazing!! Very Halloween indeed 🙂 )

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    1. Thank you so much. It is hard and as I said I usually let it go but seems worse and I am crying a bit more often. Also out of character. In allowing people to get to me. The pic is one of those filters in Messenger. I love those things. Have great day. 🤓🤗💜

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