19 years ago today the ex and I said ‘I do’.
We had been together 7 years already and he thought it was time to get married.
I went along for the ride although my heart was not really in it.
Not that I did not love him but I had sworn as a young girl I was never getting married after witnessing my parents marriage fall apart.
My reasoning was that if it ended there would be so much easier to walk away.
Within 6 weeks of my having said yes I was married.
This is also the year that my depression was first diagnosed.
Although it was before the marriage not after. 😂😂😂😂
We had good years and bad.
It was the way of any marriage only I was feeling stifled.
I was feeling unseen.
Disappearing into a mom/boss (at work)/wife there was no me any more.
My ex is not a bad man at all.
And he does his best to do right with me now.
When we were married I paid all the bills /loan/mortgage and he paid for groceries etc.
I was always stressed.
Slowly our marriage dissolved.
And then it ended.
We, he and I, have worked very hard to go from where we were when we split in 2016 to today 2021.
I can say he is one of my closest friends.
And I one of his depending on the month and the girlfriend. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
We can talk about everything and anything as well as co-parenting.
Today I have my first call with the lawyer.
To begin our divorce.
Talk about irony right there.
I am not going to lie I have cried a couple of times since making the phone appointment. 😢😢
This is the final little bit to making our lives totally separate.
It is an ending.
And endings are hard for anyone no matter how it comes about. 😞😞
©Sept. 14/21
Picture is my own
Why so long for the divorce to actually take place? Did I miss something in the story? Well, I’m praying it all goes smoothly and you put the past behind you! 🤗
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No we were in no hurry to spend the money. Now though the ex would like to build and to do so my name needs to be off the mortgage which only happens if I am off the land title which only happens if we are divorced. So now we are going ahead. It will go fine. Uncontested. All the lawyer has to do is write it up and file for us. Everything else I laid out in email
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Sounds good!
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Thank you for sharing.
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never start it then
i know
i never
would again
nor never should have
either sadly
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But it’s not bitter and that is what counts!. Hugs Sis!! xx
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What a journey, the emotion is palpable in the read, best wishes as you journey this part of the road.
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Thank you so much. 😊
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My pleasure Jay-Lyn
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