Klutz Update

So while I still am the largest klutz around at the very least an easy answer was had.

I was explaining to the doctor what I had down and how while still not being to explain that there was no sharp stabbing pain but when used it ached. Also how and I included a demonstration at this point of how I had been holding my arms. My hand was poked and prodded and he pushed a few places that while not painful were uncomfortable. And then he moved my hand. Pop. Pop. Pop. Ewwwwww. Gross.

So a sprain has been determined. Rest and use it over the weekend. And I should be fine for work next week. All 37 hours of it. Wait you gasp but you are full time where are the other 3 hours?

Are you suitable enthralled? Wondering how it is that I am only working 37 hours next week?

It is that time of year again folks. My annual two week birthday holidays. LOL okay the birthday is only one day (next Saturday to be exact) but this is the time of year that I take my two weeks. My plans are the same plans that I have every year.

Nothing.

Wait? Whuuuuuuuuuut?

I do not work all year to have time off so I can spend more time working. Holiday time is time for me to do what I want. Read. Spend time for the first week with Tember (2nd week school starts.) Read some more. Write. Write. Write. Quite possibly look over the works that I have set aside for a book and see where I am at.

I may do a few extra things here and there. Throw a wall wash in there a day or four. One wall a day is doable. And as some are not full walls containing doors or windows I can do two of those a day. And Tember’s room. I say this all the time but I must enter. I must give it a once yearly deep clean.

I also have a list of things that I need to have repaired around the apartment so I am making a list and then will call my leasing agent. She is awesome. Not sure why everyone seems to have a problem with her. I use to serve her all the time when she would shop early mornings. Now though she shops at different times so rarely do I see her. But I can call and the handyman will be right out.

I am going a week later this year. That one extra day threw everything off this year. Every time I say this people look at me like I am insane. But I am not. In 4 years since the ex and I split……I have never had Tember for his birthday. It has always fallen on his dad’s week. This year. I had him. Christmas has always fallen on my week for the last 4 years. This year he is with his dad. It is a good thing that he and I have a set Christmas schedule that works well for both of us.

I am really looking forward to my two weeks off. I still need to look at the school list and see what I all need to get for Tember. And go through all last year’s stuff to see what I can reuse for him.

For those two weeks I will be abdicating the Klutz throne but rest assured I shall return to take up my scepter which I will drop-kick-race after-step on and land face first in someone’s lap to start my reign anew.

©August 22/20-Picture is my own

I’m Sorry Part Deux

For those of you who saw the poem ‘I’m Sorry‘ you know that there was an incident between Tember and I this weekend.
He lashed out at me. Made fun of my teeth. Not going to lie it hurt. Called them Bunny Teeth. When I asked why he was being like this he told me I did it all the time. Which as you know took me aback. What? He felt as though I was making fun of him in a mean way? When I asked him to explain/tell me a time that I had done this (cite your sources) I got the ‘I love you. Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee’
It hurt like a son of a bitch.
I cried.
I wracked my brain trying to figure out when I could have been so hurtful. When had I said something to make him feel like this?
I spoke with a friend of mine who reassured me that Tember would eventually realize what he had done. That he would apologize.
Here is the kicker folks. This happened on Friday after I had purchased the CPU for him. This was after I told him that I had a surprise for him. And than wham! Shot out of the dark.
Now I know what happened. And the poem I wrote lays it out.
My weekend.
The Ex asked to have Tember so they could build a fort together.
Spend time together.
Tember was so excited he left his Xbox at home.
His Xbox people-his Xbox!!!!!
Friday started off good.
He goes to his dad’s and things seem ok.
The glue gun broke so dad had quit making the fort.
This is what he told me.
Told him to go hang out with dad.
Was told that dad was hanging with the girlfriend.
My heart is breaking because I know what this weekend meant.
Get a link that takes me to a picture of myself with the caption ‘look at those bunny teeth.’
Yep.
Regardless of the pursuant conversation I wanted to lash out and tell him that I had purchased a new hard drive for him. That he would not be getting it. But I took a deep breath. I purchased it as a gift for Tember. Telling him and taking it away was cruel. What was to be gained? So I bit back my comment and as per above asked when I had done something like this to him. He ducked and ran.
Saturday tell him I have a surprise.
Also asked him if he was still pissed with me. Yes I said pissed. Please this child has heard so much worse come out of my mouth I am not going to be a hypocrite. He said he never was mad with me and he was sorry.
I told him he hurt me.
I admit I was still really hurt. This is not how I taught Tember to behave.
Here’s the kicker…..
 he was mad at his dad but could not take it out on him so easier to provoke a fight with mom.
Because no matter what she will always be there.
 And once that dawned on me (ashamed to admit that it took me awhile to put 2+2 together) I got it.
Sunday Tember told me he loved me and was again sorry for what had happened Friday evening.
Monday he comes home.
Finds the CPU which by the way in my infantile outbreak decided not to set up for him…….probably best thing anyways as he was able to set it all up the way he wanted to today. He flies into my room and thanks me.
Again tells me he is sorry and did not mean it about my teeth.
I had braces when I was a kid but my front teeth have since moved back to their normal position. To the point where I am embarrassed of my smile. I know that I am buck toothed. I am told over and over that I have a beautiful smile yet as soon as Tember made that comment to me all self-confidence was gone.
I am still not really over it.
I am known to harp and harp and harp on the same subject. I know this. So tonight I needed to say one thing and that would be it.
I told Tember I needed to get this out. Once it was I would never bring it up again. He agreed.
His behaviour was that of a bully. He found something that he knew would hurt me and used it intentionally. This is not how I have taught him. He hurt me.
Forgiveness is an incredible thing.
I figure some are going to say that as the adult I should blow it off. I am not built that way. And he pinpointed the one main thing about me that causes me to be self-conscious.
I needed for him to realize how powerful words are. Which is why I may have gone for a couple of days making him think about how he made me feel. I am hopeful that he is going to remember this. I am hopeful that I am going to remember this.
Out of this experience we learned:
I can think before I speak.
I still am a wee bit childish making my own child suffer for hurting me. (Oh I know there are people reaching for their phones but so what……he learns)
Tember realized why it hurt me.
He took my words about being a bully and hopefully has taken them to heart.
I am his safety net. The one constant in his life that never changes. I might drink a little much. I might swear a lot. I am a proponent of 4/20 lol and enjoy it.
But…..
Not a day goes by that I do not tell Tember and show him that I love him.
Not a day goes by that we do not laugh.
Not a day goes by that even subtly a lesson is learned. And not all lessons are learned by Tember. I have learned my fair share as well.
I am not a conventional mom.
I share a little too much.
Am such an embarrassment because I am a little too open about sex with him.
I am his cheerleader.
I believe that he can do absolutely anything he wants to do.
I adore him and tell him this on a daily basis.
He is my so(u)n (yeah silly I know)…..
my moon…..
my stars……
he is my everything.
©May 19/20
Picture is of us