It Comes Closer

I am on day two of a 9 day stretch. Reason being that I need next Thursday June 9th off. Why might I need the day off you ask? What possibly could be so important that I was doing a 9 day stretch.


My mom retired to Mexico in 1999. The last time I saw her? Late summer of 2019. It has been a long time. We message in the morning but despite both of us having skype we did not do much of that.

When we were growing up and even into my ’20’s mom and me would talk to one another just to say good morning and I love you. Mom was in an accident in 1984/5 I think which made her realize how short things can be. From then on she made sure that she always told us, her parents (who were not too sure how to take it given that was not how things were done lol) at the end of the conversation or in the morning before leaving for work I love you would be heard.

I have carried on the tradition with T. I tell him all the time I love him. And he will not end a phone conversation with me without telling me the he loves me. Does not even care if anyone hears him. I have a pretty confident son I have to say that.

I was going to let T take the day off school so he could come with me. Honestly it is because I have to drive into the city and go to the airport. I will have to park my car and go in to get mom. Needless to say I am nervous.

Now I am even more so given Track and Field which was suppose to be tomorrow has been rescheduled to the rain date. Which is…..Thursday June 9th. T will be participating doing the shot put. I am very proud of him. I also told him that he would now be going to school.

Track and Field and he is participating, he gets to go to school. I will make the trip into the city alone to pick mom up. Coming home will be so easy. It’s the getting there lol

June 1/22

Mom It’s Time

T came home from school yesterday and was chortling as he unpacked his backpack.
T: Mom it is time for my comedy class!
Me (listening with half an ear): What?
He digs out a pink form and waves it at me.
T: Mom you have to sign this form. They are finally going to teach us about sex at school.
Me (laughing): But you know all about it already.
T: I know mom that is why I said it was going to be a comedy class.
Me: T I do not want to get a call from the school about you disrupting the sex class.
T: Mom really…..
Later in the evening I reminded him once more that he was to behave in class.
That I wanted to hear nothing from the school regarding this class.
And he was not to say anything.
As the daughter of a nurse who learned about sex and babies when she was 7 I have never been shy discussing the birds and bees with T.
ha ha
And given that he has always loved his birth story and has had me tell it over and over again sex was something I explained early.
Not in great detail and as he has gotten older we had several more conversations.
***His father attempted once to have ‘the talk’ with him and T laughed him out of the room. He was terribly uncomfortable and had nothing new to add.***
I wholeheartedly believe that sex education is best started at home.
I have taught T that his body is his own and no one can touch him without his consent.
I have taught him that a body is just a body.
Whether male or female.
That the sexual aspect is a gift given by your partner.
Otherwise everyone looks the same under their clothes.
Two legs/arms/hips/genitals in one form or other/knees etc etc.
I have taught him to respect girls and women.
I have drilled into him to always stop and think before doing something:
Is this something that I would be okay with if it happened to my mom?
As well as the police and parents of any girl he harmed would do less to hurt him then I will. He is aware that running and changing his identity in case of this happening is by far his best choice.
Although he will be hunted til the day I die.
Hobbling after him waving my wooden spoon.
I know that there are things that most parents won’t discuss or fear discussing with their children.
Sex being a big one.
Or at least in my town/city.
Abstinence not education is the preferred way to deal with it.
As a parent the less that I make something exotic and unknown the less exciting it becomes.
Yes sex is wonderful and great.
But there is a lot that plays into it and those things can be difficult to convey to a group of 15 about to be teens.
How do they understand the emotions that come with this experience?
They don’t and it is something that will only be understood once they have gone through it.
The mechanics will never change and those can be taught in school.
The emotional aspect and how one must treat their partner is something that can only be taught at home.
And is something that we should never shy away from discussing.
©May 26/21
Picture via Pinterest
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