I wish that there were more hours in the day. To accomplish all that I want to accomplish. (Work, exercise, clean, down time, read, write, did I mention clean?)
I wish that I would not feel the need to nag and nag and nag. To allow T the space in which to grow. (But at 18 he is released into society and I do not want to let out a caveman)
I wish that I was able to read each and every blog that I follow. To interact and connect with all those wonderful writers. (There are so many I feel I neglect)
I wish that I was able to carve out more space in my life. To allow others entry. (This though means letting them passed the facade I have created to protect myself.)
I wish that I was more confident. That I did not sometimes (always) undermine my worth.
I wish…..I wish…..I wish……
I wish that I would not feel guilty when I failed to accomplish all the above.
Because really I am doing the best that I can.
I have spent all day trying to come up with a poem for today’s daily prompt. And yet nothing would form. I was actually a little afraid that I was going to fail in doing the prompt every day this month and let down Confessions of an Irish Procrastinator. And given that she was able to put one out today the pressure is on. 😦 (For all who have been following me and wondering about the smiley faces it is the only one I can figure out on my notebook. Appears I might have the frowny face down now. Everything else I need through my phone and yeah…….)
Okay so I thought long and hard about this one. And it turns out that what I am about to write is intensely personal.
For the longest time, my vision of myself has been skewed. I had this voice, this tape in my head that told me 1) the only reason that men would be interested in me had to do with my sexuality 2) that I totally failed at everything I did.
I ran so hard and so fast from that voice. I took pills, I drank a lot of alcohol to silence that voice but the damage was done.
This year, when I fell down and went Kaboom! I finally was able to see. I saw that the voice I was hearing, it was full of bullshit. I am a smart, independent, confident woman. I do not need to use my sexuality to entice men. I do not need to use my body to make them like me. My brain is more than enough to draw them in.
As well, I do not in any way fail at the things I do. I am pretty darn good at what I set my mind to. I can walk the walk and hell baby I can talk the talk. I will make you twist and shout!
The vision that I had of myself has been so very very wrong. I was a crippled version, bent over beneath angry words, and abusive behavior that screwed up the way that I saw myself, saw the world and how I was to interact within it.
Now, there are no images, there are no angry voices, there is no one but me living within my head. And I tell myself I am a good woman. I am a good mother. I am a good friend. The vision that I have of me, and the woman I want to be, is no longer skewed, but a beautiful truth.
What is the Versatile Blogger Award?
- The versatile blogger award is given to bloggers by bloggers to as a recognition of the uniqueness of their content and individuality.
- It is also a way to honor bloggers who bring something special to your life whether everyday or now and then.
- The award is run by VBA. Check them out
When you are nominated for the Versatile blogger award, you have to play by a number of rules and these are the rules.
- Thank the person who gave you this award.
- Include a link to their blog.
- Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly
- Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award — you might include a link to this site.
- Finally, tell the person who nominated you 7 things about yourself.
I an not going to nominate anyone because over the last couple of days I have nominated all that I would have nominated here. I do invite those who would like to to participate as I always love discovering new facts out about y’all. I read your stories but having the deep dark secrets behind the stories is awesome. And I may create a character based on you. The cons of having a writer friend. As y’all know.
Okay 15 things that no one knows about me:
- I was pigeon-toed at birth. I had to wear lovely shoes that had a bar going across to keep my feet straight. To this day when I am really tired, my feet will turn inward if they are propped on table or end of couch.
- I also had a lazy eye. That was corrected by wearing an eye patch.
- I broke my arm after learning how to jump off a swing. Forward jumping. I decided that I would try backwards jumping and well…….
- I am a non-practicing Catholic. There are just too many things that I cannot resolve to my satisfaction.
- I am a secret romantic. I want to be swept off my feet. Flowers sent to me, dinner at a nice restaurant. Told to dress up.
- I am rather opinionated.
- I like to talk, a lot.
- I swear, a lot. T is forever telling me to watch my language.
- I can take little pieces of information and come up with the whole picture. Whether I am suppose to know or not.
- My bff and I are twins born 9 3/4 years apart. We look nothing alike, we sound nothing alike, yet we are soul sisters. She knows everything about me. From the moment we get up until we go to bed, we are messaging one another. Or sending voice messages.
- I am separated. And although at first we could not stand one another, the Ex and me, we are at a point where we are friends.
- I want to make you cry! LOL I have realized that with my poetry, I want to make people feel. I want to touch a cord within them. Mom use to joke that she always knew how good a book was based on how many times I cried. Or used Kleenex. I want to be able to do that.
- I spend a lot of time reading the blogs that I follow. I have mentioned before but will mention this again, I am so afraid to miss any of your posts that I have them emailed to me. Instantly.
- I love to cry. As odd as that sounds when I read I love it when the writer can make me cry. Being able to connect through the words before me, to feel what the writer is trying to convey, means a lot to me. Sometimes I will have to stop reading because the pain is so overwhelming. Yet I will continue to read once the initial wave has passed.
- I love to sing. I use Spotify and it is awesome. I can spend an entire weekend writing and listening and never get to the end of my list. And I keep adding to it.
- Okay there are only suppose to be 15 things but I just had a thought…..let me know your favorite song. I love to discover new artists.
So there you have it. 15 things about me and 1 request. Have an awesome night/Monday wherever you are in the world. And thank you for reading me.
So before I begin I want to give a big thanks to Confessions of An Irish Procrastinator for giving me a wee bit of a kick in the ass to do this. She had decided to do the daily prompt every day for the month of May and asked for ride alongs. I am a ride along although I started 2 days in. If you have not had a chance to check out her blog please do. I giggle every time I read one of her posts. And you do not need to be Irish nor a Procrastinator to enjoy.
I have thought long and hard about today’s word prompt. And I will tell you it has been difficult for me. Believe it or not I even googled the word to see if there was an alternate meaning that would work for me. Alas, there is not. Therefore this post is going to be short and sweet.
At no point and time will I ever mentor anyone. Never ever ever and this is accompanied by vehement head shakes.
I am the world’s worst teacher at anything. I do not have the patience to explain things over and over again. I become very frustrated and will end up just pushing whomever I am trying to teach out of the way (usually T although I believe he does it wrong just so I will) and do it myself. I get very irritated and do not know why.
See, I learn by hands on. Maybe I will listen to someone explaining to me what needs to be done, but for the most part I would rather play around with computer, phone, till, scales what have you, until I figure it out myself. Even if you do explain it to me, most likely I have zoned you out and figured out 10 different ways to do it faster and better. (Oh yes I know that sounds totally egotistical but that is how my mind works. I have short cuts upon short cuts and what may take someone upwards of half hour or more to do usually takes me 10 or 15 minutes.)
So my way of teaching is to show you once and than set you free. How else are you going to learn if you do not do it? Some people will thrive with this type of mentoring while others will flounder. And than my impatience gets in the way.
Best thing I have decided is to take a step back and not teach/mentor anyone. Let me do what I have to do and everyone else can be the teacher. It really is a better fit all around. Now, mom, wow she can mentor and teach but it is not a talent/attribute that she passed along to me.